T.L.C. (Teens Learning to Choose)

PARENTS

What is dating abuse?

Dating abuse includes any behavior by a dating partner that
  • is used to manipulate
  • is used to gain control
  • is used to gain power over someone
  • makes a person feel bad about himself or herself or other people who are close to this person (such as friends or family)
  • makes a person afraid of her or his boyfriend or girlfriend


Dating Violence Hotline/Helpline Numbers and Resources for Teens
  • Crime Victim Services 419-222-8666
  • Rape Crisis 24 Hour Hotline 1-877-867-7273
  • The National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline 866-331-9474
  • Peer Listening Line (for gay/lesbian/bixexual/transgender youth) 800-399-7337

Because we all have daughters

For many years, the violence against women has been seen as primarily a "woman's issue" instead of as a human issue. The question is, "Why would man want to get involved in ending violence against women?" The answer is very simple: "because they have daughters." Men have daughters, sisters, friends, mothers, co-workers and other women in their lives who men want to be safe but they do not have the skills or tools to help create that safety.

As a beginning step, Because We Have Daughters provides a unique opportunity for fathers to learn about their daughters' realities by sharing fun and educational activities, followed by discussions about any insights they gained from the activities. This helps men understand what it would be like for their daughters, and all women, to live fully and freely without fear of violence.

The training consists of a four-hour day full of games, activities and arts and crafts. The day ends with reflection, appreciation and snacks.





Tips for parents

  • It is never too early to teach self-respect. No one has the right to tell your teenager who to see, what to do, or what to wear. No one has the right to hit or control anyone else.
  • Give your teenager a chance to talk. Listen quietly to the whole story.
  • If you suspect that your teenager is already involved with an abusive partner, tell your teenager that you are there to help, not to judge. If your teenager does not want to talk with you, help your teenager find another trusted person to talk with.
  • Focus on your child; do not put down the abusive partner. Point out how unhappy your teenager seems to be while with this person.
  • If your teenager tries to break up with an abusive partner, advise that the break be definite and final. Support your teenager's decision and be ready to help. Get advice from teen dating violence prevention hotlines or teen counselors how to support your child through a relationship break up.
  • Take whatever safety measures are necessary. Have friends available so your teenager does not have to walk alone. Consider changing class schedules or getting help from the guidance counselor, school principal, or the police if necessary.